Can You Survive A Divorce?

Did you know the average divorce costs $20,000? That’s outrageous! And frankly, most people can’t afford that.

My friends at ModernLaw and spend their time working with people who are divorcing – and in one form or another are doing the divorce themselves. That helps defray some of the cost.

In fact, as many as 80% of people who divorce in Maricopa County (Phoenix area) have NO attorney.

You have to wonder if mistakes are being made. And doing something on your own can scare the snot out of a lot of folks, understandably, because the stakes are high. Really high.

But this fun little quiz made me laugh, and it helps you figure out if you can divorce without an attorney (all or in part). It’s good to know there’s some in between!

Please feel free to pass it along to a friend who might need it.

Cleaning Out My Closets

I’ve been meaning to revise my website for a while, and today was the day. It’s a lot like cleaning your closet. It’s not all that fun, but the results can be wonderful.

After you’ve had a blog/website for several years, it tends to bring all kinds of attention by hackers and bad guys who want to extract whatever value they can from it. I’ve spread myself out over several urls almost too numerous to count so I decided it was safe to wipe the website clean and start up fresh. It felt great.

If you’re looking at your old website and feeling the same way I did – with out of date articles, old photos, and piles of comments from spammers, it might be time for a re-do. Don’t be afraid. Just do it.


This effort was in part spurred by the wildly popular advice book by Japanese organizational maven, Marie Kondo. Her book, “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing” wasn’t something I went through word for word, but I understand the beauty of a clean area.

Her bottom line advice, the bit that I use for deciding if something needs tidying, is to ask yourself if what you have makes you happy. Hold it up, look at it, stand back and consider: “Does this make me happy?”

It’s a great question. You can use that question on closets, cupboards, websites, cars and yes, even spouses.

Does This Make You Happy?

I asked myself that when looking at all the files and photos I had collected in this website, and I said NOPE, this does not make me happy. It represented what I was working on at an earlier time, and included things that I didn’t need or want anymore.

This can be a good way to free up your psyche. Plus, it has the added benefit of providing stuff for the local charities or Goodwill. Sounds like a WIN to me.